Is your life full…
or just full of noise?
That hollow ache when the alarm goes off on the weekday.
The way you move through the day routinely being competent. Performing okayness.
The slow suspicion that you've built a life that fits everyone else's expectations and none of your own.
That isn't burnout. It's disconnection. You're a lion living like a housecat — fed, comfortable, and quietly going out of your mind.
At 3 AM on a random Tuesday in 2016, I lay awake completely empty. I had everything I thought I wanted and felt like I was dying inside.
I know that feeling from the inside. That's where this work comes from.
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Men's Rite of Passage
Ten days on a sacred Andean mountain. Four months in all.
A retreat is a place you come back from. A rite of passage is something you go in as one man and come back as another. The mountain is the threshold; the months on either side are what make it a passage.
Cohort begins Jan 2027 · expedition in the spring
Read the full outlineAlso available: The First Cut (three sessions, start anytime) 1:1 mentorship (five private seats) The Crossing (next cohort July '27)
What comes alive when you stop performing.
You stop waking up with that tightness in your chest.
You stop performing in your own relationship and start being there.
You stop mistaking numbness for peace.
You stop living as a stranger to yourself.
Fear is the compass.
Most developmental work asks you to transcend fear. I tell you to lean into it.
Every fear is a doorway. And the only way is through. Learn how to tremble and walk through anyway.
This is a return. To your instinct. Your depth. Your edge.
This is initiation.
Are you a wild man living like a housecat?
Take the Housecat Test — a 2-minute gut check, and the 60-second move that tells you whether you've gone numb, or just become caged.
Then I'll send the Letters: honest writing from inside the work, once or twice a month. No content strategy. No weekly tips. It's also the best way to know when a spot opens.
Just Get the Letters
Not in the mood for a quiz? Start with The Three Crossings — seven letters, one a day — then the writing itself, once or twice a month from inside the work.
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Testimonials
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Ish helped me to connect with my heart, moving from the stories in my mind to the feeling of inner knowing.
James MorrisseyData Scientist
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Through Ish's support, I was able to make some potent breakthroughs that I wasn't even aware of in the beginning, let alone break through them.
Mark GobienTeam Lead
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Through our work, I developed deeper understanding of myself and how I behave for the first time in 35 years. It's already showing in my relationship.
Ryan AbramsSoftware Developer
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The processes that we embarked were gut wrenching, soul cleansing, and felt like giving birth. The space that Ish holds is of true reverence to something deeper than many of us can touch, but only feel in our bones.
Mikael HaydenLeadership Coach
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Ish has been someone I have trusted countless times to help me find the true voice of my soul, to learn to love and trust more deeply and live more authentically.
Jassy BlueWomen's Mentor
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Being in Ish's container helped push me to take some brave steps, including returning back to Europe after 5 years, and forming my own group. It was life changing, and if you give this work a chance, I have no doubt it can change your life too.
Kevin RafalskiCarpenter
If you're done performing, there's a way through.
Applications are open for the January cohort — four months, eight men, and ten days on a sacred Andean mountain.
Not this one? See everything that's running — including three sessions you can start this month.